Tuesday, December 18, 2012

How to use Facebook to focus on what you want instead of what you think you want

What'll it be, folks?

Today I am sharing an article that outs me as a spiritual person and which I have written with other spiritually inclined readers in mind. However, I think that even people who consider themselves secular, atheist or realist can get something out of it, so here it is:

I have been noticing a recent trend on Facebook to focus on complaints, victimhood and generally the negative. Even spiritual teachers and people who walk a spiritual path seem to resort to denouncing and pointing fingers. And I have caught myself doing the same several times.

It’s understandable. There are many things in our world that are far from perfect or even desirable. But is focussing on the negative really helping us to shift our energy towards a more positive life? I don’t think so. Facebook makes it easy for us to post and share stuff without reflecting on it first. But shouldn’t we be the ones who deal more consciously with this? As people on a spiritual path we know that energy follows awareness. Or we should know.

So let’s focus on the positive. 

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying we should ignore the not so great things in life – the wars, murders, bad people or even our own issues (and, yeah, if you complain about something on Facebook you can bet it’s yours too).

Again: Let’s focus on the positive: that which we want to strengthen and draw into our lives.

Here’s a list of things I came up with to be in better alignment with my Facebook output.
Let’s start with the Don’ts:
  1. Don’t post anything negative. Period. If you really need to do so, point out the bad things once, maybe twice. But don’t revel in them. Ranting will probably help you let off steam but it’s actually the digital equivalent of vomiting in public. And yes, maybe you get sympathy for a short time, but usually from the people that also fall out in that area. It only helps to keep you in the bad stuff. Every issue can be tackled from a positive direction too.
  2. Especially don’t try to get sympathies from people by pointing out how bad you feel but leaving the reasons shrouded in mystery. There’s a word for that: attention-seeking. There’s an even worse word for it: energy vampirism.
  3. Try to avoid sharing tons of memes, pictures with mottos etc. Most of that stuff looks positive at first glance, but is really nothing more than pathetic emotionalism and victimhood in disguise. Think about what you want to share. Maybe longer than five seconds. Does it really speak to the deepest healthiest part of you or does it just confirm your own preconceptions (you know, the ones that could use a revision anyway)?
  4. “Okay, I hear you, but there are really great quotes of really enlightened people on Facebook. The Dalai Lama. Rumi. George Takei. Well, maybe not George Takei.” Yes, you’re right. But think about it. Do you want your profile to look like a collection of great thoughts from every wonderful person in the world but you? What about your own original thoughts and inner wisdom? Try to post less of them and more of you. 
  5. Post less trivial stuff. The cat is sitting in a really funny position that you just need to share with all your Facebook friends. Really? Trust me, we have seen the same thing a hundred times before. Same goes for pics of meals or the dirt your kids dragged into the house. Some of it is funny, but most of it is just numbing the senses like fastfood. 

The Dos:
  1. Post what really inspires you in your life. And I don’t mean the next trivial Facebook meme but something that REALLY inspires you. Like, something from real life.
  2. Share the important stuff that you want people to be aware of, like websites of environmental organisations or where to send your money to help people in need. If it’s about a catastrophe, animal slaughter or other deficit, all negative things, ask yourself how you can write your post from a more positive mindset that empowers people to change the situation.
  3. Post what you are thankful for. According to the law of attraction being thankful for something tends to draw more of the same into your life. It’s really a no-brainer.
Well, there are not many Dos on my list, as you can see. Probably because the good reasons for sharing something on Facebook are really not many. Chances are good that you will be posting a lot less when following these rules.
Is that a good thing? I think so.
Because you will be contributing to spread the positive and constructive.
Because your Facebook friends will get a much better idea of the real you.
Because it will help you focus on the things you want. Really want.
Oh, and it also makes your profile look a lot less cluttered too.

And so it is!
Many Blessings


P.S.: If you come up with any Dos and Don’ts that are not on my list, please let me know!